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A Detour in the Journey

February 08, 2018

Hey Everyone,

Life throws those curveballs that can either make or break a person. I have to break it to you that unfortunately the Dopey Challenge has been slightly changed. I’m taking a slight detour and postponing the finale until January 2022. You read that correctly; two years later than the original goal.

This decision was not made lightly. With any journey, it is a good thing to make sure that it is feasible for everyone involved. The reason why is mainly financial. It just isn’t going to be financially possible.

2018 is so that Husband can finish College

2019 and 2020 are to pay off debts.

2021 is to save for this journey

2022- Dopey Challenge

With the postponement of this journey, there is more opportunity to save for a grand adventure. Plus, on the good side, the boys will be 8 and 10 so they can do the 5K and possibly the 10K with me (or at least Monster can) and Husband can run the Half Marathon with me.

I have more time to train properly with more running, eating, and sleeping. All three things I absolutely love to do anyway, but I want to make sure I don’t hurt myself. More time to prepare my body for the rigorous stress it’s going to endure.

Another plus is that my niece and her guardians are going to plan on coming with us as well in 2022. In a house full of males it would be nice to have a manicure/massage with another female or two. . . All the possibilities.

Not giving up, just another detour.

See you on the other side!

 

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Cross-Eyed Life

January 30, 2018

Hey Everyone,

I am sorry for not posting the last few days. Life has been in one of those upheavals. Last Thursday my oldest son had eye surgery to correct his Strabismus. This is a condition in which his eyes did not align properly to focus on objects causing double vision, lack of depth perception, and blurred vision. He has had this condition since birth, but Husband and I didn’t notice it until he was about two when it was blatantly obvious to everyone else around us.

We should have noticed something before he turned two, but just thought it was normal for a child’s depth perception to be off like our oldest child presented. As he was moving into the different stages of development he would crawl more to the right side than straight towards an object, or when he would walk he didn’t grasp how far away an object was and would either trip or fall right into the object.

With working as an emergency dispatcher I was asked to bring my kids in to have some of the new EMT students do assessments on them for practice. The different EMT groups went around and would comment on Monster’s eyes and ask if it was normal for them to be that way. It started to freak Husband and me out so we asked the teacher what we should do since he was a registered Physicians Assistant. That was when he recommended we see an optician who then referred us to a child ophthalmologist.

He was two years old when he saw the ophthalmologist in Napa, CA where he was given a prescription for his near sidedness sight. The results were breathtaking. After putting on his glasses, the first thing he said when we walked out, “Lights on the car” about the truck parked next to us outside the office that had been there when we had arrived. We almost cried because we didn’t realize that his sight had been that bad.

There were never really any fights about putting his glasses on and keeping them on because his sight was so bad. His vocabulary exploded because he could then see the world around him more clearly.

Back to the strabismus though, we started working with the ophthalmologist in Napa, CA to do some vision therapy including eye patching and even eye drops. Unfortunately, two years into the treatment, we moved to Reno, NV and had to start over with a new ophthalmologist.

Now, he is six years old. The vision therapy didn’t work. He hated the eye patches and every time we had to put in eye drops everyone in the house would end up in tears because of the massive stress it would put on us. Monster didn’t care for it because we were purposely blurring his vision in one eye to force his left eye to work. Even though his depth perception was still way off and he saw double of everything (we didn’t realize this until we saw the new ophthalmologist in Reno and they started asking him different questions).

During this journey, he had 4 different cases of pink eye. Once in both eyes, and then three times in his left eye. I swear if anything went wrong we didn’t call the Primary Care Physician, we called his Ophthalmologist. Each time he got pink eye it got worse and worse for Monster to see, his prescription changed 6 times in 4 years. Glasses are not cheap. Especially, when for the first two years we had to pay for EVERYTHING out of pocket with us having no insurance.

This surgery was the last option for us after four years of trying every option we could think of to help correct his vision. It was not a light choice to make and we knew that as he got older it would just get more difficult for him. So Husband and I put money aside as best we could during OEP and paid the $3,000 for Monster to get his eye corrected. The surgery was the longest 2.5 hours of my life.

Even though it’s been less than a week since his surgery there has been such a difference for him. He looks at everyone and everything with both eyes together. He doesn’t have any head turning trying to decide which eye to look with. And he even says that he sees one now instead of two. His peripheral vision in his left eye is broader. I am just so amazed at what a difference this had made for him.

While this will be a lifelong journey for him, I am so glad that this happened when he was young enough to not have any lasting side effects. Even though he might need a follow-up surgery, may it be in a few months, or a couple of years, we are still here for him and want what’s best for him.

This is all part of the journey.

Have any of you had vision issues? Eye surgery? Children that have had surgery? How did you get through it?

See you on the other Side.

A Year of Braceface

A Year of Braceface

January 16, 2018

Hey Everyone,

As of the 10th, I have had braces for exactly 1 year. 12 months. 365 days. Only 10-12 more months to go.

BracesLooking at the before and the now, there has been such a tremendous transition. I have gained so much confidence when I smile and also am more than willing to be in a picture. Before I had braces I would look at other people and see their perfect teeth and get very self-conscious.

At first, when I got the braces it was just the top and my front gap was closed right away. Only the top was applied because I had such an overbite that if I got the bottoms they would be bitten off in like 10 minutes. Ouch!!

Since I have Hypodontia and have either missing teeth or just have baby teeth halfway through the year I got my canines shaved down to look like the missing lateral incisors and my 1st premolars reshaped into the canines. The other option would have been to have implants put in to replace the lateral incisors, but that costs a lot of money $3,000- $5,000, which we do not have, and I think I would have looked funny with perfectly nice teeth but no incisors.

Also, the orthodontist found that underneath one of my baby teeth on the bottom there was a “hidden” adult tooth that could have become infected down the road. I had another decision to make: I could just leave the baby tooth alone and then in 3-5 years have an oral surgeon surgically remove it (ouch!!) or…I could have the baby tooth pulled and try and pull the adult tooth up and get a cap put on. Either way, the adult tooth was going to need to be dealt with so I didn’t get oral cancer. Being that I am scared of the possibility of getting any type of cancer I had the surgery to remove the baby tooth and found that the adult tooth wasn’t viable so it was also removed and a good chunk of my jaw bone. The recovery was longer than when I had my wisdom tooth removal, and I have to say more painful. Still a good decision.

The past year has changed my oral hygiene for the better. I have had to learn how to properly do it, and also the time and money needed to invest in the correct care. At first, it was difficult because I knew that I needed to brush but it was usually a quick 30 seconds of minimum effort once a day. So to do it twice a day for a full 2 minutes and add flossing, mouthwash, and the last few month using a Waterpik. I gotta say 30 seconds a day to a full 15-20 minutes twice a day was quite a transition for me. Now I can feel when my mouth is dirty.

Some of you will say, “How could you not know?” or something about how I was so gross. I have to agree. It was gross and I didn’t know because I wasn’t taught. I never went to the dentist growing up, I got a new toothbrush once a year. I’m very lucky that I even got a toothbrush in general with how I grew up. Now that I’m older and making a conscious decision to better myself and my family I’m learning a lot. This is all part of the journey. My kids will not have to worry about not knowing how to take care of their teeth. They brush, floss and Waterpik with me every morning and night. And if they need it (knowing Husband had braces for two years, and I have braces now they most likely will as well) they will be getting them.

Did you have braces? When? How long? Do you wish you had braces? Are you going to get braces in the future? Let me know. Be a part of this journey and tell me your experience in the comments.

See you on the other side.

 

A Good Twist In the Journey

A Good Twist In the Journey

January 14, 2018

Hey Everyone,

So on Thursday night Husband, boys and I had dinner with Husband’s mom (MIL), step-dad (FIL), and brothers (BIL1 and BIL2). A get together is not a big deal because it is a very close-knit family that randomly has get-togethers like this, I would say every one-to-two months. Thursday was a little different.

Looks like MIL and FIL are moving all the way across the country to Tennessee in 2019. 2,316 miles away. None of us were really surprised because they had been talking over the last couple of years about the possibility of going and what would need to be done to accomplish that goal and other stuff. What surprised me was that they are going to divide their property into four equal parts and give them to Husband, his brothers and another person in FIL’s family. 8.25 acres each.

That was a major twist. A good twist in this journey.

Since that night Husband and I have been having serious discussions about the possibility of moving to TN with them. We would need to start getting our stuff together and paying down debt to save for putting up a house on the land if we decide to do it. Either way, though the land is there if we use it, or not.

Another great thing is that my job moves with me, so I don’t have to go through the awkward stage of moving to a new place and also looking for work. Unfortunately, depending on when we depart is on if Husband will have to go through the same song and dance. Finding an accounting job in TN shouldn’t be too difficult? We shall see when we cross that bridge.

What do you think? Have any of you ever move cross country? What would be some advice for us? Look forward to seeing some responses.

See you on the other side.